A while ago my parents – mostly my mom – approached me asking what they could do to improve our relations. We’ve been estranged for over a year after I caught them in repeated lies in regards to the care of our children as it relates to COVID and proper safety guidelines. They followed these lies with guilt trips, gaslighting, doses of propaganda and conspiracy theories; and a point blank refusal to get vaccinated.
Hoping for a genuine reconciliation I asked them to please explain the situation from their perspective. I wanted them to feel heard and I wanted to understand their logic, however skewed it may be. It seemed like a good place to start. Their response was to plead ignorance. I called them out on it and told them we could go no further without genuine and honest reflection on their part. This was a week ago. I’ve now received what feels like a very short, reluctant/insincere, and rushed apology. As though they want to settle this quickly, forget about it, and get back to normal asap.
I don’t buy it. My husband doesn’t buy it. Despite my wanting to call bullshit to their faces, I think I may try and use it to start a genuine conversation in the hope that they will get the hint that it took over a year to get to this point, so it’s gonna take a long time to rebuild, and require a genuine effort on their part. Not sure if that’s a waste of time.
Any insight is welcome.