JNMIL visiting stress

There’s a long back story with my JNMIL but, in short, she has a preference for my nephew and has made catty comments to me since I’ve known her. I eventually called out her shut last year and it’s been mega awkward since because no one calls her out. DH agrees on her behaviour we are LC but he can’t cut them off.

We haven’t seen them in some time but they’ve just come back from holiday. Rushed straight to see SIL and took nephew and some other children on an expensive outing.

DH got a text to ask if we’re around this weekend to visit them. We aren’t but he said they could come here tomorrow. He has been stressing to get the house in order since MIL is now chatting on about spending the day doing the garden. What this means is I will be expected to watch the kids, stop them from getting in the way , provide food and drink and generally wait on them. I’ve been stuck doing it before and it’s awful and stressful.

I refuse. I’m so sick of being told they never see the kids, made to feel it’s down to me and then them pulling this. I’m planning on taking the kids out instead. I’m sure there will be fallout but I’m not having my day trashed and my kids disappointed again.

JNMIL visiting stress