Holiday Control

To summarize, JNMIL is very controlling of our children, my husband, and how we spend our free time. We’ve been in marriage counseling for a few months, and while DH now understands my frustrations, we’re still having problems responding in the moment. Yesterday evening, FIL called DH saying he and JNMIL ordered pizza and wanted us to come over. We were coming back from family trip to the zoo and planned on doing fireworks at home with our kids. DH got off the phone with his dad and insisted we go to his parents and take our fireworks over there. I said absolutely not. We are not rearranging our plans bc they demanded we come over at the last minute. Ensue fight about this. Compromised by telling him to invite ILs to our house to watch kids do fireworks . They come over…JNMIL says we need to come over for lunch today. I told her we had plans with the kids and didn’t know when we’d be back. She proceeded to repeat this multiple times throughout the night. Now DH feels bad and like we need to go. I tried explaining we do not owe his parents every minute of our free time and every single holiday . We are allowed to be a family, which is what our counselor has also said. 3 hours with them yesterday was enough. I don’t know if I’m looking for advice or just need to vent but this is stressful.

Holiday Control